tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7875403678124073123.post2843106316795348242..comments2014-09-01T19:20:28.895-04:00Comments on involution: Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7875403678124073123.post-32756229524224667202011-02-04T13:10:14.871-05:002011-02-04T13:10:14.871-05:00You were doing so well, up until the last couple p...You were doing so well, up until the last couple paragraphs. It seems like all I ever say to you is that I LOVE the way you sound these days. And I did, especially when you were going off on people who need to have opinions about other people's lives. I'll be quoting your sentence about "Nothing is too big or small for...". That was fantastic.<br /><br />Then I thought that maybe you were being all inspiring and hedonistic! What if the purpose of life is to have as many wonderful experiences as possible. Then, your sweet guitar playing boy is totally contributing. And even if he isn't going to be permanent, he has added to your store of delicious experiences, so you both win! (I seem to be picking up a poet along those lines. I am also baffled.)<br /><br />But then it all went bad, because you drew a totally unnecessary conclusion at the end, and one that didn't flatter your dazzling new self. You could have said, I am fated to be single because it is my role to make guitar players in New York swoon for me. Or you could have said, I am meant to be single because I wouldn't give up a single guitar player and in fact I'm thinking of branching out to drummers. But instead you went all unnecessarily negative, when really, there's no fucking fate about it. You'll keep going, and you'll meet lots of people, and lots of things will happen and you have a million paths you could follow because you are in a rich, dense place doing neat things. I want to hear more about THAT.Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11098866080820585157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7875403678124073123.post-55409384996222053482011-02-02T20:35:59.327-05:002011-02-02T20:35:59.327-05:00NL: I'm glad you found the post interesting......NL: I'm glad you found the post interesting... I paid good money to have a therapist explain to me that a lot of what I don't like in my life has nothing much to do with me, and that the fact that it has nothing to do with me also has nothing to do with me. I'm still trying to assimilate it.<br /><br />Monkeymama:<br />- In eight years? Not sooner?!! :)<br />- You are awesome, and you and Greg are awesome together. Personally I think you're a great match. But even if I didn't think that, I'd think anybody who draws conclusions about you two is wrong, just as I was wrong (and tried to admit it) to condemn my classmate's relationship. I don't really understand the relationship of any established couple I know, and their impenetrability is probably part of what makes them great.<br />- I will send you a picture! He's adorable.capella.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16849543981466335603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7875403678124073123.post-43071072560644134612011-02-02T14:33:25.703-05:002011-02-02T14:33:25.703-05:00* Wish I could see a photo of gentelman caller. H...* Wish I could see a photo of gentelman caller. Hope it doesn't fizzle out too quickly if you are enjoying it.<br /><br />* There is nothing wrong with being a single person.<br /><br />* I have visions of Rebecca and I visiting you and NY in about 8 years to see the sights... so keep that in mind.<br /><br />* I often feel that a few people in my life think that Greg should have ended up with someone more ambitious and on a similar "level." It's a crappy feeling.Monkeymamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06264960774394882763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7875403678124073123.post-43986424475558274672011-02-02T10:19:47.220-05:002011-02-02T10:19:47.220-05:00I think this post was interesting. I find your ...I think this post was interesting. I find your notions of how, when people are being inexplicably unsupportive of some parts of one's life, that it has more to do with THEM than YOU, to be an applicable insight in many situations, and has rapidly become a mainstay of my emotional toolkit. So, uh, thanks.NLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05836853918004723688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7875403678124073123.post-54697184375298192802011-02-02T01:04:18.982-05:002011-02-02T01:04:18.982-05:00Over the years I've known several men who marr...Over the years I've known several men who married foreign women. With one or two exceptions, none of the relationships worked out well. Note that none of these were mail-order bride situations, which you'd expect would be fraught with peril.<br /><br />PeterAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com